This is a subject I've never talked about.

Not because I'm afraid of it, but maybe I didn't feel involved enough to talk about it.
Recently, a friend of mine brought up this topic because he was suffering from it and now here I am using it a few times, wondering if the term should apply or not.
First, I think it would be good to explain the meaning of the word and finally get to what it is for my friend.
What is obsession?
In psychiatry, obsession means a mental disorder characterized by a fixed idea, a fear or an impulse that imposes itself on the mind and determines a sensation of anguish.
An example would be a vision that obsesses us, a vision that imposes itself relentlessly on the mind, having an obsessive thought, the obsession, such as an obsessive neurosis can lead to the alteration of the personality.
All this seems to be a bit scary and I am sure that it is far from being the case.
Let's take a simple example: last night he told me that he couldn't sleep because his mind was thinking about his beloved. No matter how hard he tried, he tossed and turned in his bed, but sleep wouldn't come and it lasted for several hours. What about it?
Some will say that there is an obsession.
He was obsessed with the idea of the absence of his beloved to the point where he could not sleep.
Is this not the revelation of the desire that one has for the other?
Isn't it wonderful to find this happiness with the other?
We must now believe that with these last words, we are approaching the right dimension of this dear obsession. It is an evil that is a good. An evil because of the pain and sorrow that it causes, but a good because of the satisfaction and happiness that it brings. Who doesn't want such happiness?
Would obsession be then the resulting force, the consequence of love?
It is almost obvious that there is love.
Why question the natural ?


However, there is a danger if this love becomes obsession, isn't there?
How can there be danger if love means passion, tenderness and attachment?
Indeed, it is a feeling of passionate affection, an emotional and sexual attraction of a human being for another.
Love is nothing other than the manifestation of a body that desires, and isn't desire a movement of the consciousness towards an object of which one feels the need? It is certainly this need which prevented him from sleeping last night. What will it be tonight if we think that sexual attraction makes us burn with desire?
And what is this need, this sensation that leads us to certain acts, and here it is not a question of eating, drinking or sleeping, of what is indispensable to daily existence, but rather of something that we feel we need. We want to be close to the person we love, to touch ber, to kiss her, to make love to her.
To make with her this marvelous act of communion of two bodies which will live in harmony, agreeing and balancing well between them.
Isn't it said that man's happiness lies in voluptuousness?
The happiest life will be the one with the most pleasure and the most sadness?
I said voluptuousness, that is to say, the deep enjoyment which derives from sexual pleasure.
Is it obsessive to talk like that?
Or is it the deficiency from which we suffer that puts us in such a state?
Because indeed, the organism feels the absence of an element essential to its balance
So I'm going to tell my friend that there is no reason to worry, that everything is normal and that everyone feels the same fears and emotions.